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Kisah tragis adik Zulfarhan from UPNM, bukan kisah SATU kematian, tapi ENAM. Enam kematian dalam satu masa
BOYS DONT CRY
I saw the family of the boys who were accused of killing Zulfarhan at the court. I read that they all cried and wailed upon hearing the accusation read to the OKT. Sedih. Airmata harapan. Airmata ketakutan. Airmata kehilangan.
Who would have thought?
Kisah tragis adik Zulfarhan from UPNM, bukan kisah SATU kematian, tapi ENAM. Enam kematian in time. Yesterday 5 boys were charged under Section 302, murder with intention. Which brings to mandotary death penalty upon conviction.
Im not going to bring up religion bcz the act of hurting others is totally unislamic.
Im not going to bring up lack of education bcz all the accused are university students.
Im just going to talk about the perception.
That boys shouldnt cry, and they shouldnt hold emotion. That boys should be tough and strong and army boys are build to hit.. “budak lelaki tak boleh menangis, kalau kena pukul, pukul balik!”.
The traditional mindset is teaching our boys to be rough and tough with nil empathy. Correct me if I am wrong, but if all our boys are thought to behave rather than hit, wouldnt it be better? We do not go to the depth of the problem but rather temporary solution. “Pukul, tak jantan kalau tak pukul”.
Sad reality.
We live in a society where boys are mocked when they cry. We tell our children that boys shouldnt cry. We tell kids that its ok for girls to put their feelings on their sleeves, but not for boys. They need to keep all their emotions to themselves. They should be ashamed of themselves if they cry. They shouldnt tell people if they get hit. “Malu weh, tak jantan!”
So they dont.
They keep it all inside, all this negative energy like a hidden inferno. Can energy be demolished? No, so the inferno grows.
And all these emotions, frustration, anger, jealousy and all in the long run becomes rage. Therefore upon given a chance to potray their emotions in a close setting, they tend to over do it. “Dulu aku kena pukul macam ni jugak, lagi teruk.. so sekarang aku punya turn pulak pukul orang”. Thats how they justify ragging/bully.
Thats exactly what happened which resulted in 30 over boys beating the shit out of one boy last 13 May, who sadly died on 1st June after succumbing to his injury. A sadistic ragging/bully turned wrong all ways possible. A horrible ragging/bully turned murder.
All in an army training setting. In a renowned university. With one flick of poor decision making, there goes the future of so many young boys. There goes a son, a brother. There goes their life. Akibat tak fikir panjang dan kegagalan menahan sabar, what could be so bright of a future, jadi gelap behind bars.
Can we change this? Yes. But we have to do this together.
Play your role.
My father who is a teacher, is also a Wasit Silat, and my brothers are so good at it, but never have they ever use it to abuse another person. I know. Because as a family, we talk. We love each other. We are very close. We spend alot of time together. My parents, they talk to us, their boys and girls equally. We all can ‘cry’ and they wont judge us when we do. I dont judge my brother when he confides in me crying, for that does not mean he is weak. Its a matter of family understanding and support, no child who is so loved and full of conscience would hit another so badly.
So teach your child to ‘take a knee’. Teach them how to shake their own conscience. To love, to be kind, to have empathy.
What I’m saying is that, as much as you listen to your girls, listen to your boys as well. Ask them if they feel hurt, sad, cheated, angry or frustrated. And then tell them its ok to let their emotions out. Listen and lend them your shoulder, then only would you be able to raise a good man. Start with, “do you want to talk? Are you ok?”.
Stop telling our boys they should not ‘cry”. I quote Johor’s Sultan Ibrahim saying after the bicycle crash accident not too long ago,” biar anak menangis, jangan kita menangis”. Therefore, jadikanlah kisah Zulfarhan satu pengajaran buat kita semua. Bully and ragging needs to stop. It all starts at home.
The boys in the picture could be your son, or my brother. Lets not say bad things about them, (no I am not defending them) but only because justice will be served on cold plates, their futures are bleak and the price they have to pay for their wrongdoing is hefty.
“BIAR ANAK MENANGIS, JANGAN KITA MENANGIS.”
Al Fatihah adik Zulfarhan.
Now we all cry for you.
#tfm
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BOYS DONT CRY
I saw the family of the boys who were accused of killing Zulfarhan at the court. I read that they all cried and wailed upon hearing the accusation read to the OKT. Sedih. Airmata harapan. Airmata ketakutan. Airmata kehilangan.
Who would have thought?
Kisah tragis adik Zulfarhan from UPNM, bukan kisah SATU kematian, tapi ENAM. Enam kematian in time. Yesterday 5 boys were charged under Section 302, murder with intention. Which brings to mandotary death penalty upon conviction.
Im not going to bring up religion bcz the act of hurting others is totally unislamic.
Im not going to bring up lack of education bcz all the accused are university students.
Im just going to talk about the perception.
That boys shouldnt cry, and they shouldnt hold emotion. That boys should be tough and strong and army boys are build to hit.. “budak lelaki tak boleh menangis, kalau kena pukul, pukul balik!”.
The traditional mindset is teaching our boys to be rough and tough with nil empathy. Correct me if I am wrong, but if all our boys are thought to behave rather than hit, wouldnt it be better? We do not go to the depth of the problem but rather temporary solution. “Pukul, tak jantan kalau tak pukul”.
Sad reality.
We live in a society where boys are mocked when they cry. We tell our children that boys shouldnt cry. We tell kids that its ok for girls to put their feelings on their sleeves, but not for boys. They need to keep all their emotions to themselves. They should be ashamed of themselves if they cry. They shouldnt tell people if they get hit. “Malu weh, tak jantan!”
So they dont.
They keep it all inside, all this negative energy like a hidden inferno. Can energy be demolished? No, so the inferno grows.
And all these emotions, frustration, anger, jealousy and all in the long run becomes rage. Therefore upon given a chance to potray their emotions in a close setting, they tend to over do it. “Dulu aku kena pukul macam ni jugak, lagi teruk.. so sekarang aku punya turn pulak pukul orang”. Thats how they justify ragging/bully.
Thats exactly what happened which resulted in 30 over boys beating the shit out of one boy last 13 May, who sadly died on 1st June after succumbing to his injury. A sadistic ragging/bully turned wrong all ways possible. A horrible ragging/bully turned murder.
All in an army training setting. In a renowned university. With one flick of poor decision making, there goes the future of so many young boys. There goes a son, a brother. There goes their life. Akibat tak fikir panjang dan kegagalan menahan sabar, what could be so bright of a future, jadi gelap behind bars.
Can we change this? Yes. But we have to do this together.
Play your role.
My father who is a teacher, is also a Wasit Silat, and my brothers are so good at it, but never have they ever use it to abuse another person. I know. Because as a family, we talk. We love each other. We are very close. We spend alot of time together. My parents, they talk to us, their boys and girls equally. We all can ‘cry’ and they wont judge us when we do. I dont judge my brother when he confides in me crying, for that does not mean he is weak. Its a matter of family understanding and support, no child who is so loved and full of conscience would hit another so badly.
So teach your child to ‘take a knee’. Teach them how to shake their own conscience. To love, to be kind, to have empathy.
What I’m saying is that, as much as you listen to your girls, listen to your boys as well. Ask them if they feel hurt, sad, cheated, angry or frustrated. And then tell them its ok to let their emotions out. Listen and lend them your shoulder, then only would you be able to raise a good man. Start with, “do you want to talk? Are you ok?”.
Stop telling our boys they should not ‘cry”. I quote Johor’s Sultan Ibrahim saying after the bicycle crash accident not too long ago,” biar anak menangis, jangan kita menangis”. Therefore, jadikanlah kisah Zulfarhan satu pengajaran buat kita semua. Bully and ragging needs to stop. It all starts at home.
The boys in the picture could be your son, or my brother. Lets not say bad things about them, (no I am not defending them) but only because justice will be served on cold plates, their futures are bleak and the price they have to pay for their wrongdoing is hefty.
“BIAR ANAK MENANGIS, JANGAN KITA MENANGIS.”
Al Fatihah adik Zulfarhan.
Now we all cry for you.
#tfm
Sumber : FB Tun Fiqa Muhammad
✍ Sumber Pautan : ☕ Siakapkeli
Kredit kepada pemilik laman asal dan sekira berminat untuk meneruskan bacaan sila klik link atau copy paste ke web server : http://ift.tt/2rBrMow
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